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How to Deal with Social Media for Your Kids


We want the best for our kids. We want them to grow up and achieve their goals and have a happy life. We put so much of ourselves in that desire for them to be happy, we would give almost anything to achieve that. However, stories of how social media can have an extremely negative effect on kids do make you worry about the world our kids are growing up in. Obviously, as parents, we monitor social media usage and make sure we explain to our children what they should avoid or tell us about. 

But even with all the warnings, social media can be a source of anxiety for kids. There is cyber-bullying, and there can be adverse side effects even when there’s no malice intended. The constant stream of seeing doctored highlights of others in someone’s timeline can lead to negative emotions. In some cases, it can lead to negative self-reflection, depression, and other mental health problems. For all it’s progress and possibilities, the internet has shown that it is not always positive, and children are especially vulnerable.

The Method of Banning or Restricting

As parents, we can shield our children from these kinds of things by restricting specific sites, limiting access, and time spent online. We can keep a close eye on the devices that our children use, but eventually, it can be tough to control their access to the internet. It is readily available at the library, a friend's house or at school. Banning and restricting can make it more desirable and likely that they will bend or break the rules when they get older.

Building Digital Constitution

The alternative would be to let our children go online and help them recognize the bad things that can happen and how to react. For everything negative, there is something positive. For example, the ease at which trolls can hide behind their internet screens also comes with a similar low-effort of ignoring or reporting the same person. If confronted with content that evokes a negative emotion, it’s just as easy to close the browser or turn off the computer. And when the computer is off, it might be as easy to open a book and read. Too many kids often think that the computer is the only place for entertainment. This behavior can also be seen in the phenomenon of FOMO, the “fear of missing out.” By showing our kids that there is so much more than their computer, tablet, or phone, we can take the pressure of having to be “always-on.”

Positive Visualisation

Another way to enforce a strong digital constitution is by fighting this type of negativity by introducing positivity. One method to achieve this is positive visualization. This is a way to stimulate the brain, your mood, and general disposition, to anticipate future experiences. The mind will, subconsciously, find ways to go to that desired point in life and can help get there in real life.

An example would be the desire to become better at basketball and subconsciously shooting hoops in your mind. This can actually help get better at shooting hoops in reality. Another example is someone visualizing owning a beautiful house or condominium. They will subconsciously think of ways to get there, and this will lead micro-decisions to achieve that. Positive visualization can significantly help to resist the feeling of wanting what others seem to have.

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